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While media might portray fighting in a marriage as one of the most romantic and worthwhile parts of the relationship, it’s important to distinguish between regular bickering and a toxic rollercoaster dynamic. If a rough patch has been going on for far too long and has taken a toll on your marriage, then it may be a sign that you should stop trying to justify constant fighting and end your marriage before things head even further down south. Taking the major step towards ending your marriage is one of the biggest and most difficult decisions that you’ll ever have to make during your lifetime, but there are some situations when it’s best to call it quits. Sometimes, the path to amicably ending things can be blocked by countless attempts to fix your relationship; however, you have to know when to draw the line and walk away.

If you and your spouse have decided to end your marriage, then it’s important to note that the road you’ll have to take to successfully file for divorce can be riddled with complications. Before you make the decision to finally cut the knot, here are some aspects of your life that might be affected by the split:

The relationships you have with the people in your life – Going through with the divorce may cause unease or strain with the relationships that you have with your common friends, family members, acquaintances, and soon-to-be-ex-in-laws. This can cause awkwardness during interactions.
Your work or occupation – During the divorce process, you may experience bouts of anger, irritability, sadness, and other manifestation of shifting moods because of the stress brought about by the divorce process.
Your overall health – Speaking of stress, the divorce process may also cause you to seek out certain habits that can harm your overall health, such as smoking, drinking, and binge eating.

Should you really pull through with the divorce?
During the process, you and your spouse may go through a certain period during which you consider once more whether or not the two of you should save the marriage or let it go. While starting things over and trying to fix your relationship might seem like the best thing to do, the key concept in the whole divorce process is mutuality. Going through the divorce process involves asking whether or not your partner wants to pull through as well, because if you are reluctant to pursue the process and they are as well due to sincere intentions aside “just looking bad”. When deciding on whether or not you should pull through with divorce, it should be because of unhappiness or practical reasons that can never be fixed. The two of you should also think about what you’re going to lose and put at stake.

What should you do when you’re finally pushing for divorce
Should all the love, hope, and patience in your heart run out and indifference towards your spouse take its place, then it’s definitely time to file for divorce. However, before proceeding, prepare a plan that you’ll have to follow once you close the doors, which includes knowing where to go, what to do, what regular routines to pull out of, and what new and healthy habits and activities to start.

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