You Likely Don’t Need A Boca Raton Divorce Lawyer

Just because you and your spouse have decided that it is time to consider a dissolution of your marriage, it doesn’t mean that you hate each other. As a matter of fact, in most divorce cases, when both spouses decide that their marriage is just not going to work, there are options. They need to in fact have enough humility, mutual respect, and the willingness to try to end their marriage amicably. All too often divorcing couples become unwittingly embroiled in a contentious and expensive divorce proceeding, when all they want is to resolve their divorce in a respectful manner.  Don’t let exorbitant hourly fees from a Boca Raton divorce lawyer wipe out your savings and your children’s educational funds. There’s no reason to turn your divorce into a hotly contested, expensive and confrontational legal battle.

Often, people in Boca Raton, FL think that they need a divorce lawyer when getting a divorce. In fact, they are shocked when they find out that in most cases, they don’t!

 

Divorce Mediation Is More Common Than You Think

In a case where both spouses hire a Boca Raton divorce lawyer, they are doing so because they assume that when you get a divorce, it is always an adversarial process, where you are fighting about every single detail. Sitting down with your Mediator and addressing parenting and finances directly gets to the heart of the matter, quicker and more cost effective. A contested divorce with attorney representation can easily cost a couple well in excess of $30,000.00. But in most cases, there is a very successful and much less costly alternative. It is called divorce mediation.

 

Keep It Simple

With divorce mediation, you actually hire a divorce mediator, such as Judith Goldberg. In most cases, divorce mediation is far less costly. Additionally, it is also much easier, and less stressful, too.

Make no mistake about it – divorce mediation is NOT an alternative to divorce. It is just an alternative to a litigated divorce.  You still complete the process with a Marital Settlement Agreement, just as you do with a litigated divorce. The only difference is how you get there. For example, in a litigated divorce, both parties need to each retain their own attorney. This can range anywhere from $5,000-$10,000 upfront for the retainers. This can also run out pretty quickly! Most Boca Raton divorce lawyers charge $350 per hour or more. If you and your spouse are well prepared, typically, you can complete a mediated divorce for less than $5000 total. This is a big difference! But the benefits of divorce mediation don’t stop there…

When Is Divorce Mediation The Right Option?

If you have children, divorce mediation should ALWAYS be explored. The mediation process is one that gives both of you a neutral third party to help mediate our settlement. The mediator really helps you and your spouse collectively work to solve each issue fairly. As a result, you and your spouse tend to be friendlier in your demeanor because unlike often times in a litigated divorce, where you are at each others throats, or trying to get over on each other, a mediated divorce is much more peaceful.

As long as you both are open to being fair with each other throughout the mediation process, it can work. You need to still be able to get along to a degree, be it for the sake of your children, or just because you are decent human beings. A mediated divorce can be much less stressful, much more effective, and definitely much less expensive than a litigated divorce. A Boca Raton divorce lawyer will definitely be much more expensive, 99% of the time. Also, the mediator will help you solve each issue, one at a time. Some examples are:

Work Together On Your Divorce

When you and your spouse are working with a mediator, you have the option of making proposals to each other. You share ideas with each other, and try to negotiate a fair settlement for both of you.

There are also some other very important factors that need to be considered when thinking about mediation. First, you maintain much more control of your proceedings. This is important because you are able to address each item in your divorce at your own pace.

You have the ability to be very creative in how you propose dealing with each item in your divorce. This is important because you ultimately settle on something that works for both parties. And this can usually happen very quickly, so speed of action is also a significant benefit.

Can Divorce Mediation Be Cheaper Than A Regular, Litigated Divorce?

There is another reason that divorce mediation is gaining a lot of popularity, despite what Boca Raton divorce lawyer wants you to know. It is MUCH less expensive than a litigated divorce. In many divorce cases, by the time that both spouses pay for lawyers in a litigated divorce, the costs can be several ten’s of thousands of dollars! Whereas, in a mediated divorce, you can usually complete the divorce for about $5000, or less. This includes your complete Marital Settlement Agreement, as well. Compare this to a Boca Raton divorce lawyer who charges $350 to $500/hour, or more. And you need two of them!

We will share much more information about the benefits of a mediated divorce below, and show you why you likely have no need for an expensive Boca Raton divorce lawyer.

Control

There are things that couples who are considering divorce may not always realize. First, when you have a litigated divorce, you lose a lot of the control with how your divorce is settled. A significant benefit of a mediated divorce is that you and your spouse will have much more control over your future. More specifically, if you engage in a litigated divorce, it ends up in front of a judge. That is not the case with mediation.

The fact is, that you and your spouse know everything about your family, your values, how you raise your children, and what is best for them, and really, your entire family.  A judge will never know as much about what is best for your family than you do. So why would you let a judge decide all of these items for you? Maintain complete control of your divorce proceedings with mediation.

Is Divorce Mediation Popular?

While divorce mediation isn’t the best option for all couples that are considering a divorce, it may surprise you to know that in about 70%+ of all divorce cases, mediation could have been utilized effectively. What does this mean? Well, for starters, it is far more cost effective, as mentioned above. Often times, a mediated divorce can be completed for about $5000, sometimes even a bit less.

Another huge benefit of a mediated divorce is that while you may find it difficult to be friendly with each other in most divorce cases, it isn’t a stretch to decide to be decent with each other, and approach this with an heir of respect. After all, at one point you were in love with each other. You should always try to have a mutual respect for one another, especially if there are children involved. This means that you are still going to be in each others lives, and still have to communicate with each other, see each other, etc.

You certainly want to minimize the negative affects that a divorce will have on your children. Let’s not allow them to see their parents constantly fighting, and at each others throats. And you definitely don’t want them to see you being nasty to each other. That doesn’t kelp your children, it hurts them. Very badly, I may add.

Conclusion

So, to summarize how simple, yet effective a mediated divorce can be for you, you only need to ask yourself a few simple questions to see if mediation can work for you:

  • Are my spouse and I capable of talking together with a reasonable level of respect and dignity?
  • Is it important to me that we try to prevent this divorce from getting ugly, and we can agree to keep it respectful?
  • Would it be better to avoid hatred and constant fighting with each other throughout the divorce process?
  • Do you want to avoid handing over $10,000 – $20,000 for an upfront retainers for a Boca Raton divorce lawyer?
  • Is it important to save upwards of $10,000-$30,000, or more in legal fees to complete the divorce?

If you have answered yes to these questions, then take the next step, and call me. I am happy to discuss the benefits, and the process of mediation, and also your situation, at no charge. I will educate you on the benefits of a mediated divorce, and tell you right up front, in my professional opinion, if mediation can be right for you and your spouse.

My Offer To Both Of You

In any case, I hope that you and your spouse find a way to reconcile and work out the issues in your marriage. If that is not possible, then I would be honored to see if I can help the two of you, and your family. I am not a Boca Raton divorce lawyer. While I am a divorce lawyer in my Connecticut office, my Florida practice is focused 100% on divorce & family mediation. I know the law, I know how to apply it. But most importantly, I know how to guide you both through this in an amicable, and effective pleasant way.

 

Judoth Goldberg - Divorce Mediation - Boca Raton, FL
Divorce Mediator Judith Goldberg

My office is located at 2385 NW Executive Center Dr, Boca Raton, FL 33431.

You can reach me via telephone at (561) 220-0950