If you’re calling it quits on your marriage, chances are you’re thinking of representing yourself in divorce court rather than hiring an attorney. If you weren’t married for very long, don’t have any children or assets to battle over, and don’t wish to receive alimony from your soon-to-be former partner, this may be perfectly fine.

That being said, marriages are usually a little messier than that. This is why an experienced divorce lawyer can be a godsend. There are a lot of decisions that you have to make during this process that will have an effect on the rest of your life. Furthermore, you’re probably overwhelmed with emotions and may not be in the best mental state to make these decisions. Although not every couple may need a divorce lawyer, you’ll find that in most cases, these professionals are invaluable. This is particularly true if your divorce is messy, contested, and involves children or assets.


Let’s take a look at five reasons why you should hire a divorce lawyer instead of going it alone.


1 – You aren’t a professional in matrimonial law

People who represent themselves in court aren’t given any special consideration. They’re held to the same standards as the attorneys representing the other party. The majority of judges have incredible amounts of patience. However, if you’re unfamiliar with the law and come unprepared without the right documents, you may be pushing them a little too hard. You want the judge to be sympathetic. Irritating them isn’t going to help. Professional divorce attorneys know matrimonial law to the letter and are able to conduct themselves professionally in court.


Even lawyers who specialize in other areas recommend hiring family lawyers when needed. They know that they’re outmatched by people who specialize in matrimonial and family law, even if they’re legal experts. Chances are you won’t be able to match up either. One mistake could cost you quite a bit. Don’t risk that one mistake. Hire a professional.


2 – You probably aren’t in the best emotional state to be making important decisions

Divorces can get pretty stressful. You’re probably feeling sad, frustrated, confused, angry, afraid, and depressed among other things. In all likelihood, it’s going to be difficult for you to think objectively. Processing your emotions may take some time. While you’re still trying to catch up with what’s going on, it isn’t the best time to be making major decisions about your future.


It’s crucial for you to understand that your emotional state may keep you from making the decisions that you won’t regret later on. Divorce lawyers, on the other hand, will be able to keep a clear mind. They can give you objective advice and help you reach a resolution that you’re happy with. They’ll remind you to work through your emotions and may even connect you with a professional who can help you to do so. A great divorce lawyer will be straight with you when you’re doing something out of pure emotion that you’ll regret later. Your lawyer will act as your buffer and keep you from sabotaging yourself and your case.



3 – You aren’t aware of all the options you have

Divorce lawyers have worked with quite a number of clients in the past and are able to predict the outcome of your case if you decide to take it to court. They’ll let you know about all the options that you have to settle your case. Many people who represent themselves end up wasting time and money on things that weren’t going to pass in the first place. A professional divorce lawyer will help you write up a reasonable proposal. Or if you’re receiving a proposal, your lawyer will help you read between the lines and give your recommendations on whether you should settle, give a counter-proposal, or take it to court.


4 – You’re going to have to deal with a lot of paperwork

Nobody likes paperwork. Divorce involves quite a pile of papers that you have to complete and file. You may not know exactly which forms you need to fill out and which ones you don’t. Collecting all the essential information can be challenging and time-consuming as well. As tedious as it may be, the paperwork is crucial for the process. Judges who preside over divorce courts spend a lot of time poring over your documents to decide the outcome of your case. Small mistakes can cost you big time. Accidental omission can harm your case. Rather than let the case go on and on because of your blunders, have a professional divorce lawyer take care of it. They’ll know exactly which forms to fill out and how to phrase your side of the argument persuasively.


5 – You may not be seeing the big picture

Winning the case isn’t everything. You win if you leave satisfied with the settlement. When emotions are running high, you may not want to compromise on any of your requirements. A family lawyer will help you figure out your non-negotiables are and what you’re willing to compromise. You may have to let go of some things if you want to get what you must have. A good divorce deal is one where both sides leave content with what they’ve gotten. A divorce lawyer can help you reach that place without wasting too much money. They’ll make sure your money is spent getting what you need even if it means giving up some things that you want.


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