Hiring An Attorney

  • Be honest with your attorney.
  • Be responsive to your attorney’s requests for information.
  • Make an inventory of all marital and separate real estate and personal property with approximate values.
  • Prepare a package of financial information, including, but not limited to: tax returns, bank statements, securities account information, credit card statements, loan documents, real estate transactions, etc.
  • List all the activities you participate in with your children.
  • Prepare a budget of your and your children’s monthly expenses.
  • Clarify for yourself, prior to seeing an attorney, your own important needs, interests and priorities.
  • Do not involve your children in the divorce proceedings.
  • Do not argue with your spouse. If unavoidable, do not argue in front of your children.
  • Do not say negative things about your spouse to your children or to someone else within the hearing distance of your children.
  • Try not to get overly emotional around your children about your divorce or your life after divorce. You may risk increasing their insecurity and fear about the future.
  • Do not deny your spouse access to the children, unless there is a good reason to do so (i.e. domestic violence, abuse, etc.) and then only on the advice of counsel.
  • Do not change the locks to the residence unless advised to do so by counsel.

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